Welcome

The aim of the project is to explore the experiences of people who have at some point in their childhood or adolescence lived in a home where there has been family/domestic violence and abuse.

By family/domestic violence and abuse we mean people, who as they grew up, were made to feel unsafe in some way by the behaviour of the adults in the home (e.g. parents/caregivers). The behaviour of the adults towards one another may have taken a number of forms including:

Coercive control (for example: behaviours such as causing humiliation, manipulation, being nasty and calling names)

Physical violence (for example: punching, slapping, kicking, pushing)

Verbal abuse (for example: shouting insults; screaming abusive language)

Financial abuse (for example: taking money, only giving money for specific items and monitoring spending)

Threatening behaviour (verbal or physical) (for example: threatening to tell lies; threatening violence; threatening to hurt children, pets or loved ones)

Undermining behaviour (e.g. telling someone they are stupid, useless, bad at things)

The impact of parental/caregiver interactions (such as those listed above) on any children in the home is often overlooked because the children have traditionally been seen as  witnesses or observers.  This view is changing and researchers have written on the topic but there are still only a small number of studies where the children themselves have been asked about their experiences, which is understandable whilst they remain children. 

To access experiences directly from those who have been in this position, we would like to hear from people who are now over the age of 18 years, live in the UK but are no longer in the abusive setting and feel they are able to write (anonymously) about their experiences and any support they received. Specifically, we hope to understand their experiences as children and young people and in particular what support they sought or received. 

Please note that with the exception of the consent questions, all other questions are optional, so if you come across a question that you do not wish to answer for any reason, please feel free to leave it blank and move on.